Love blooms & fades within contexts

Love blooms & fades within contexts

Human beings require air, water and food to survive is a fact known to all.

In addition, "humans are social beings". Relationships, love and affection make us flourish while the opposite makes us lose interest in living.

Imagine a world where a human lives without a name, title or possession. It is almost impossible. Every new born member of our society is given a name, surname and identity is officially proven. As the new born grows, society provides opportunities for it to enlarge the identity through an education, career, family, friends group etc. We all have lived that way and reached where we are. We have our own identities and social circles to which we belong. Upward mobility is always aspired for while any downward trends are frowned upon and automatically affects our self-esteem. 

Now, I am referring to how love and relationships get built within a specific context. When we make friends, we do look at their profiles. Sometimes it is difficult to trace whether friendship happened first or the profile match. We make conscious decisions, rational choices in terms of whom to fall in love with, whom to befriend and whom to ignore. Sometimes we have heard two persons with nothing in common fall in love and get married and we say love is blind. However, once that strong attraction or attachment breaks, even the so called loving couple starts wondering what just happened.

We have also seen attraction between people stem because of social status, money, power, designations, physical attraction etc. We are also witness to such attractions fall apart when the persons who represented these very qualities lose them at a later stage due to any reasons. Few who continue to be still in love are considered special or super humans. 

Reflecting back on life, I too feel played by such identities. I would prefer to make some assumptions here rather than conclude as life keeps evolving every minute and there is nothing certain here.

When a friend confided in me saying when she chose her life partner, the social and professional circle to which he belonged made a big difference. She did not realize it while she made her decisions, rather it struck her when she was no more attracted to him when he was out of that social and professional circle. 

Experiencing and hearing of several such incidents, I was introspecting on the power of relationships and I coined this quote,  "Love blooms and fades within contexts". 

Next time when you get attracted to someone in power, keep asking yourself is this the person or the person's identity that you are falling for. Can you really love a person without considering the context of that person. Is this a good thing or is it manipulative? Is there ever something called as true love/ pure love? Are we all not calculative and take measured risks and look for higher and better returns on our energy investment? I think it is Management. And management is not a bad word at all. What do you say?