I can draw a parallel to gadgets and our spouses. The process of getting familiar is somewhat similar. When you get a new gadget, you do not understand its operating system. Thank God, the gadgets come with user manuals, due to which, those of us who are user manual friendly can take the time to read, understand and operate the gadget effectively.
Those of us allergic to user manuals (like me) or impatient to go through the instructions learn it the hard way. We follow trial and error methods, lose our cool, blame the developer and several times in the process cause the gadget to malfunction. We even do not accept that the malfunctioning is due to our own rough handling. We continue to blame the gadget. In the process we have a broken gadget. Trial and error method does work in the end and by the time we get familiar with the operating systems and modalities, our gadget is damaged or disfigured and we live with it, though not happily ever after.....
Unlike the gadgets, our spouses don't come with User Manuals and we have to learn the operating systems somehow. So we start the hard way. Trial and error, losing patience. Blaming, causing malfunction. Finally when we learn to deal with each other, we have already caused enough emotional distraught and heart aches that we have nothing to give each other. We live the life of compromise and dream someday we can purchase a new gadget and live happily ever after....
