"Husband in the Attic & Wife in the showcase"

Let me explain....As per popular saying "Marriages are made in heaven" and to be lived on earth. If you have a fulfilling marriage, definitely you experience heaven on earth. Not all are privileged.

In most cases, the intensity of emotions, bonding may be strong initially and may wear out as years pass by, leading to my analogy "Husband in the Attic & Wife in the showcase".

We all have stuff stored in our attic. Usually the stuff that is not required for immediate use gets stored in the attic  (may be in modern homes, we may call them storage places beyond everyday reach). We all know such stuff is lying around somewhere if the need comes we can retrieve it. It may have wear and tear due to its idle condition. However, there is a mental relief that we have it somewhere and have not lost it. Similarly the case of husband in attic. They exist, not very functional but if need arise, you could retrieve and use them. Need could be social gatherings, children's education related events etc.

Now about the showcase. We all love to keep our best looking artifacts, antics etc. in showcases. These are for display only and do not have real functional value. When visitors come, they appreciate the stuff in our showcases and may enquire about those artifacts, which may bring back our memories of how we acquired them, when and from where. We may feel proud and happy sharing the story with those people. Yet, once the visitors are out of the door, we know we are back to normal and the pieces in showcase remain static. We have nothing to do with them. Similarly in some homes, a wife may have lost the functional value of emotional comfort and be a pure show piece for the man in the house. However, her value in terms of offering all the housekeeping services and home management including regular cooking, caring will never seize. Which is anyway, not acknowledged or appreciated.

Many homes may have this arrangement. Yet the fact that people can co exist without fighting or arguing and giving space for each other is amazing. I am not the one to judge and say if this is good or bad. Not all things in life have to be segregated in those two categories. Life can be lived in any fashion suitable to the person living it. Peace and harmony must prevail at all costs!